Uly’s got the words…..

So, Thomas Beatie is pregnant. It’s not miracle. Duuuh. He used to be a woman, but chose to change his gender legally. Married to a woman for 5 years, their marriage looks solid. His wife cannot get pregnant (but already got 2 kids from her previous relatioship), that’s why he took his wife’s job to carry the baby.

I’m disappointed at him, for not being consistent. I know it’s his body (or should I say "her" body, because when he decided to get pregnant he’s back being a woman!). And noone or no institution should be able to ban anyone for wanting to get pregnant. It’s something you do with your own body.

But Thomas is a man, legally. His body has changed. He takes hormones but been off for quite some time to get pregnant.

I’m a bit confused. And bothered. I try very hard not to be judgmental. But how can I not? Thomas is a man. He chose to be one, and no one forced him for being what he is now. And as far as I know, men don’t give birth.

How is he gonna explain to his future daughter? "Sweetie, do you know how hard it was when daddy gave birth to you? Thank God, mommy didn’t leave daddy’s side."

OK, that’s not really necessary. The bigger picture is, this couple brings a mixed message, a serious messed-up message to their kids, and lots of kids around them. Of course it can be explained. And with lots of love, hopefully the baby will grow up fine. But I’m still bothered. I feel like Thomas is a person who wants everything on his plate. He wants to be a man, but when he bumps the rocky road (for having a wife who cannot get pregnant) he realizes he can take advantage from his denied sex. That’s unfair.

But maybe–hopefully–he deserves the baby much more than some crackhead moms who abandon their kids. So, who am I to judge? Oh, yeah, I’m a mother. I can judge. I judge all the time! ;))